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California Adoption Conference-NEW DATES 

Great News! The California Adoption Conference has been rescheduled for October 23 and 24, 2020. The conference was able to secure the same great presenters and seminars. I have attended several of these conferences and have had the privilege of presenting as well, and it is a wonderful opportunity to learn, grow, and become inspired. In addition to the attendance of members of the triad, adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees, the participants are also pre-adoptive parents of domestic, international and foster care, birth parents who have place recently and in the past, our adoption professional community and more. This conference is a collaboration of six bay area non-profit organizations and only happens every two years so register now. 

After our months in seclusion, this will be an excellent opportunity to connect with our adoption community.

The conference will be held at the Oakland Asian Cultural Center 388 9th St, Oakland, CA 94607. For more information and to register, please check out the California Adoption Conference website.


Staying Connected  in Adoption during this time of isolation with COVID-19

March 23, 2020

     As we all grapple with our new reality of isolation and fears due to  COVID-19 and the "shelter in place" orders given by our government leaders, it will be important to stay connected. While things are very different than before, supporting each other during this time will help calm some of our anxieties and give us a better sense of well being. ​


     If you are a member of the adoption triad, this time of isolation from others can be even more difficult. Navigating relationships in adoption comes with its own challenges and having a devastating illness affecting our world and an external barrier to contact, can make things worse. Anxiety, fears, hopelessness, and depression may increase with the uncertainty as to the health and well being of each member of the triad ( your child's birth parent, the adoptive parents of your birth child, and for the child).

I have put together a shortlist of things that you can do to increase your sense of well being in relation to your adoption.

  • Check-in! It is important to honor your post-adoption agreement, however, it is ok to check in with the adoptive parents or the birth parents during this time. Anxiety often increases when there is a lack of connection so a text, email or call to make sure that everyone if doing well may relieve some stress.
  • Video chat if possible. Seeing others and hearing their voices also are reassuring, while not quite the same as visiting in person it can create a real connection.
  • If you do not have the ability to have contact, write a letter, make an entry in a journal, or do an art project. You can write your hopes for well being or use this modality to express your concerns and feelings.
  • Make connections with your personal community of family, friends or coworkers. Reducing isolation is very important.
  • Try to get out of your house to walk, safely staying a responsible distance from others. Exercising reduces one's cortisol (stress hormone) which will help you to feel better. No marathon required, just take a walk around your block or to your nearest park.
  • Reach out to a familiar adoption professional or therapist if you are finding that these feelings are not manageable. 





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